spotlock.blogg.se - Im not your friend because you touched my penis

Your knowledge of it is unavoidable, but he is certainly counting on you not daring to confront him - which is by the way the reason you asked the question.

That is because he doesn't want your husband or anybody else to witness it. Him touching you discreetly means that he intends as few people to be aware of it as possible: only you and him. Something that I forgot to point out because I thought it would be obvious, something I'm not so sure after giving it more thoughts : That is, assuming that the both of you still want him around after him showing this kind of disgusting behaviour. Let him know that your husband and his friend knows about it and is on your side. In the light of your comment to Bradley Wilson's answer, I would suggest you and your partner have a serious chat with Bob, because either he doesn't speak your language or he doesn't care at all. It will not help your husband, and it will definitely not help you. The fact is that he did something to your body that you didn't like and that therefore he has to stop doing it. Maybe he is just flirting or playing around.Įither way, you don't care that's none of your concerns. Maybe his divorce was related to abuse, maybe he suddenly feels lonely and can't resist your sight. We haven't much information, but maybe neither do you. If he continue his behaviour, he is no good to be around. As your husband suggested, you should bring up the next time that man comes to your place:īob, since you are here, I'd like you to know that I didn't like the way you touched me the last two evenings and don't want you to do it again.īe assertive, straight to the point. Your husband's friend assumed it was appropriate for him to touch your thighs just tell him that it isn't - don't even wait until it happens again. If you don't react, it will certainly continue or escalate.

He did it twice and did it on purpose, which means that he knew what he was doing and probably watched your reaction. You don't want to make the things awkward based on you not knowing what he meant by it and that he may even not make it that big a deal. Moreover, it happened not just once but twice. Apparently it bothered you, which means that it's inappropriate. Same thing regarding what he meant, it's your body. Was what he did normal? Was it sexual? I know it all depends on how it made me feel but even if hypothetically hadn't bothered me, was it appropriate? I think him being so comfortable with me was a bit too much. It's already awkward for you from the moment he touched you. If it concerns you enough to raise the issue, raise it.Īnd that it will make things awkward for all of us It's your body, which makes it as big a deal as it is to you.

How do I approach this if it happens again?Įasier said than done because I feel that if I do this I will make it a bigger deal than it was.

Am I being too conservative or sensitive?.

I know it all depends on how it made me feel but even if hypothetically hadn't bothered me, was it appropriate?.

I am used to men who are less forward with women (I'm currently not living in the US, however) and I think him being so comfortable with me was a bit too much. Easier said than done because I feel that if I do this I will make it a bigger deal than it was (?) and that it will make things awkward for all of us. He told me that if this happens again I should just tell Bob I don't like it. The following day I discussed this with my partner and I asked for his advice. I spent the rest of the night thinking what he touched my thighs for. I felt uncomfortable and didn't know if I should have said anything and how. Well, the same touching ended up happening again that same night. My partner has other male friends whom I hang out with and they haven't made me feel that way. I didn't pay much attention at first, though to be honest, I didn't expect it and I felt a bit violated. On one of those visits and during a conversation "Bob" touched my thigh. He is still not over his divorce but at the same time, he seems to want to start dating. He has been visiting us quite often lately and we do enjoy having him around. My partner recently reunited with a friend "Bob" from high school, who has also recently been divorced from his wife of 25 years.